- I fail to blog nowadays (sad..)
- My online social network status is outdated (!)
- I'm still recuperating....(aah, I love my HMO card)
- I enjoy doing new things....(online games, huh!)
- I enjoy cuddling and playing with kids
- I'm still doing work @ home (naah...too bad)
- I avoid drinking this
....bad for MY health (daw)- But usually down
.....good for MY mind while reminiscin' :p- I've encountered this unusual love story of two people I know:
girl (my HS classmate; location: Phils) + boy (my grade school classmate; location: USA) + friendster "Who Viewed Me" feature" = A beautiful love "'though-long-distance" relationship
- I really am so clumsy (imagine, while walking, pati pader nababangga ko. non-moving structure na un ah-"pader"- kaya eto meron akong malaking pasa/hematoma sa right arm ko...no need to post pics :p )
- My friends hate me for having a confusing active CP number (haha...)
- Actually I lost my "online" status.....because of this....
my "sponge-bob-amused" girl....invading my nook
OK lang...
Coz I spend my late night hour...
at napupuyat ako..
dahil sa cute na to
Dylan
I love weekend!
You don't matter enough to upset me"
That wasn't my ad lib talk. It was delivered by Kate Winslet in her movie "The Reader". She really defines what makes an actress great, so I am really a fan.
(Although I remembered saying something similar to that while in the course of categorizing what's important and what's trivial............that was when my former boss thought that I committed "insubordination". To defend myself, I think out loud, even uttered those words.......and it felt good, haha).
Striking thoughts, perceived facts & conversations I had nowadays:
Email from a confidant:
"Sabi nga ni US President Obama, all of us have the right to happiness or to pursue happiness. kung paano mo yan maa-achieve,it all depends on you. pero syempre suportahan kita to the best I could" ; "Jing, always remember you deserve nothing less. You're worth more than you could ever think, so expect nothing short of what the Lord will have for you"
received text:
iN a girl's lyf, dr r mny strugles, fearS, hartbrks & sadness but it dOsnt rily matTr @ol.r main g0al is..............."manatiling maganda s kabila ng pR0blema!
Overseas call (business):
"Jing-san, when are you coming back to Japan?....Next time, we'll go to Akihabara"
Overseas call (personal):
Caller:(joking) 'musta? what's new?
Me : (joking) Wala nga eh
Caller: (joking) huh! ako pa rin hanggang ngayon!
Me: 'mukha mo!
local call (personal):
Caller: Nag lunch ka na?
Me: Hindi pa, antok ako eh
Caller: huh?!
local call (awkward/mas personal):
Caller: 'musta?
Me: ok lang
Caller/Me : -conversations...conversations-
Caller: O sige, I have to go na, thank you ha.
Me: "Thank you?"....bago un ah
continuation...but SMS this time:
Me: "Ur welcome, Thank you din!"
Caller (txter now): "Haha, kaw talaga"
exchange of emails with a friend:
Jing's email: "Friend, I really miss ???? (stating a name of a person)
Girl friend's email reply: "Jing, ikaw ba yan?, astig ka di ba?"
Girl friend's email: "Jing, share ko lang chat namin, makikipagkita kaya ako"
Jing's email reply: "No, do not attempt" (haha, gumanti!)
New Friendster comment:
"Thanks for being my coffeemate! Coffee without u is incomplete..haha sweet q db? Ütake care! mwuaH! "
My blog's statcounter analysis:
Keyword (top 3) : "Minute Maid Pulpy Orange OST", "Jinky Vidal"; "Abundance"
Browser (top 3) : MSIE, Chrome, Opera (hmmm.....sino kaya to?)
Top song in my playlist:
"Samson" by Regina Spektor
...la lang
Just recently enjoyed my "I-want-past-thoughts-to-go-away" mantra....with my friends...
- Women have a special need to feel loved just the way they are without having to earn it (women primarily needs to be loved for who she is rather than for what she does).
- But men also have a special need. They primarily need to be appreciated for what they do. If a man is just loved for who he is, it will never be enough for him. To fully receive love, a man needs to experience that the love he receives is the result of his efforts and achievement, not just because he is good and loving person.
- It weakens a man to get in a relationship where he receives more than he gives.
- A wise man knows that a woman is responsible for how she feels. There is a world of difference between doing your best to make a woman happy and doing your best and then requiring her to be happy right away.
- To undestand a woman, a man needs to recognize that sometimes the way to to make her happy is to emphatize with her when she is unhappy. When a woman feels bad or unhappy, the last thing she wants is some man trying to solve her problems to make her feel good. Instead of a solution , she wants to feel what she feels for a while and to have him undestand what she is going through.
- Instead of not helping at all, a man needs to realize that sometimes the best way to help is just to be there for her. In this case, being there is actually doing something for her. He ca actually give less and be more supportive. When a man gives too much, he ends up feeling too dependent on the outcome.
- What men need most is to release their focus on doing the big things. He doesn't have to do a lot more to make a woman happy. It is action that sweeps a woman off her feet, but she is not dependent on a man's doing big things.
- Even when a woman complains in a relationship that she wants more, what she is really wanting more of is communication, caring and understanding. When a man hears that she is upset about little things, he immediately and mistakenly assumes that she doesn't appreciate the big things he provides. He then concludes that he must do even bigger things to make her happy.
- When a man gets involved with a woman, if she complains about the little stuff, he assumes she is not appreciating the big stuff. He feels an even greater pressure to do bigger things, which causes him to ignore the little things even more.
- When a woman complains about the little stuff, it is really because for her the little stuff is just as important as the big stuff. Instead of resisting and misinterpreting this female tendency, men should focus more on doing little things.
- It is actually quite a relief for a man to understand that a woman can really love and appreciate him for the little things he does.
Hope you all create a life filled with love and success.
The type of relationships we have with people determines the level of attachment we have with them. If we hold on and develop a deep level of attachment, it will hinder us to let a relationship grow.
When we encounter changes in our lives, sometimes it comes as a painful reality. It would be hard to deal with the emotions involve with it. It would continue to be harsh until we haven't overcome it or come to terms with it. I realized, I should be always ready to fully accept it to experience lightness, joy and laughter. I have to go through the pain in order to heal.
In these times, I pause and think of these thoughts:
- I am responsible for myself. Although I have to go through this alone, I will not let myself be in a depressive mess.
-There are many new things that can come into my life.
- I can meet and accept new people in my life.
- Being displaced fom my comfort zone is always a welcoming change, a challenge.
For now, I have the conscious effort to think positively, as I seek to be loved rather that feared. I believe that I am worthy to love and be loved.
I know there's gonna be more challenges....
"Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy" - Guillaume Apollinaire
For a lucky birthday charm, I simply put on her microminds Doraemon necklace which I ordered from an interesting Multiply online store and effortlessly collected @ their Greenhills office (among other cute stuff!..).
What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before? took tricky risks
Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year? Yes, I did, sort of. This time I will love myself more (self centered hehe)
Did anyone close to you give birth? None
Did anyone close to you die? None
What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008? time for myself
What date from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? last quarter, I became reacquainted with a friend whom I've been wanting to get to know more personally for a long time already
What was your biggest achievement of the year? I got promoted (with me being considered as having the best presentation material among my batchmates) alongside good praises that I truly deserve it (one came from my former terror boss, who's now based in Japan, who sent me a congratulatory email saying he had no doubt that I'm gonna make it)
What was your biggest failure? being misunderstood (despite all the efforts and attempts to do good things)
Did you suffer illness or injury? yes, something which would require a minor surgery
What was the best thing you bought? stocks hehe
Whose behavior merited celebration? My own. This year, I had good relationships with my friends
Where did most of your money go? books
What did you get really, really, really excited about? online shopping
What song(s) will always remind you of 2008? I'd Still Say Yes ....we're more than just lovers, we're good friends
Compared to this time last year, are you:i. happier or sadder? -- happier ii. thinner or fatter? -- fatter iii. richer or poorer? -- Richer
What do you wish you'd done more? go on vacations
What do you wish you'd done less of? tampo over petty things
How many one-night stands? Wala.
What was your favorite TV program? Convergence, Living It Up, Chef To Go
Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year? wala, i don't want to harbor any ill feeling
What was the best book you read?' The Road Less Traveled
What was your greatest musical discovery? Eheads again!
What did you want and get? love messages
What was your favorite film of this year? Dark Knight
What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? none. although I had an advanced celebration on Dec 15, instead of the 24th
How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008? Still the same casual thing
What kept you sane? friends, my blog
Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? None eh
What political issue stirred you the most? None, I hate Philippine politics nowadays
Who was the best new person you met? Mayie, a sweet girl from work, who is my coffeemate as well
Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008: I can always sing a love song for no one
What was the nicest thing someone told you about yourself: that I am his lifetime crush hehe
What did you like most about yourself this year? smart daw, firm daw, sensitive daw (and that's according to someone whom I appreciate the most)
What did you hate most about yourself this year? My "counselor" aura
Quote a song lyric that sums up your year: "There's nowhere you can be, that isn't where you're meant to be..." All You Need Is Love by Beatles
Was 2008 a good year for you? It was good in the sense that many people appreciated me more
What was your favorite moment of the year? being with Rara; marathon kwentuhan session and debate with friends
What was your least favorite moment of the year? during sleepless nights still doing work
Where were you when 2008 began? home
Who were you with? family
Where will you be when 2008 ends? still home
Who will you be with when 2008 ends? still with family
Do you have a new years resolution for 2009? To love, avoid conflicts
What was your favorite month of 2008? November
Did you lose anybody close to you in 2008? yes sort of
Did you miss anybody in the past year? yes, very much.
What was your favorite record from 2008? Eheads
Did you drink a lot of alcohol in 2008? Barely.
do a lot of drugs in 20085? nope
you do anything you are ashamed of this year? yes, admit a silly secret to the person involve
How much money did you spend in 2008? I don't do accounting
If you could go back in time to any moment of 2008 and change something,what would it be? not change, but probably repeat...being myself and being true in expressing what I really feel.
What are your plans for 2009? invest, save, save, save
How are you different now that the year has ended? I'm more appreciative of little quirks and imperfections
What are your wishes for the new year? ....to be simply happy....
