Striking thoughts, perceived facts & conversations I had nowadays:
Email from a confidant:
"Sabi nga ni US President Obama, all of us have the right to happiness or to pursue happiness. kung paano mo yan maa-achieve,it all depends on you. pero syempre suportahan kita to the best I could" ; "Jing, always remember you deserve nothing less. You're worth more than you could ever think, so expect nothing short of what the Lord will have for you"
received text:
iN a girl's lyf, dr r mny strugles, fearS, hartbrks & sadness but it dOsnt rily matTr @ol.r main g0al is..............."manatiling maganda s kabila ng pR0blema!
Overseas call (business):
"Jing-san, when are you coming back to Japan?....Next time, we'll go to Akihabara"
Overseas call (personal):
Caller:(joking) 'musta? what's new?
Me : (joking) Wala nga eh
Caller: (joking) huh! ako pa rin hanggang ngayon!
Me: 'mukha mo!
local call (personal):
Caller: Nag lunch ka na?
Me: Hindi pa, antok ako eh
Caller: huh?!
local call (awkward/mas personal):
Caller: 'musta?
Me: ok lang
Caller/Me : -conversations...conversations-
Caller: O sige, I have to go na, thank you ha.
Me: "Thank you?"....bago un ah
continuation...but SMS this time:
Me: "Ur welcome, Thank you din!"
Caller (txter now): "Haha, kaw talaga"
exchange of emails with a friend:
Jing's email: "Friend, I really miss ???? (stating a name of a person)
Girl friend's email reply: "Jing, ikaw ba yan?, astig ka di ba?"
Girl friend's email: "Jing, share ko lang chat namin, makikipagkita kaya ako"
Jing's email reply: "No, do not attempt" (haha, gumanti!)
New Friendster comment:
"Thanks for being my coffeemate! Coffee without u is incomplete..haha sweet q db? Ütake care! mwuaH! "
My blog's statcounter analysis:
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Browser (top 3) : MSIE, Chrome, Opera (hmmm.....sino kaya to?)
Top song in my playlist:
"Samson" by Regina Spektor
...la lang
Just recently enjoyed my "I-want-past-thoughts-to-go-away" mantra....with my friends...
- Women have a special need to feel loved just the way they are without having to earn it (women primarily needs to be loved for who she is rather than for what she does).
- But men also have a special need. They primarily need to be appreciated for what they do. If a man is just loved for who he is, it will never be enough for him. To fully receive love, a man needs to experience that the love he receives is the result of his efforts and achievement, not just because he is good and loving person.
- It weakens a man to get in a relationship where he receives more than he gives.
- A wise man knows that a woman is responsible for how she feels. There is a world of difference between doing your best to make a woman happy and doing your best and then requiring her to be happy right away.
- To undestand a woman, a man needs to recognize that sometimes the way to to make her happy is to emphatize with her when she is unhappy. When a woman feels bad or unhappy, the last thing she wants is some man trying to solve her problems to make her feel good. Instead of a solution , she wants to feel what she feels for a while and to have him undestand what she is going through.
- Instead of not helping at all, a man needs to realize that sometimes the best way to help is just to be there for her. In this case, being there is actually doing something for her. He ca actually give less and be more supportive. When a man gives too much, he ends up feeling too dependent on the outcome.
- What men need most is to release their focus on doing the big things. He doesn't have to do a lot more to make a woman happy. It is action that sweeps a woman off her feet, but she is not dependent on a man's doing big things.
- Even when a woman complains in a relationship that she wants more, what she is really wanting more of is communication, caring and understanding. When a man hears that she is upset about little things, he immediately and mistakenly assumes that she doesn't appreciate the big things he provides. He then concludes that he must do even bigger things to make her happy.
- When a man gets involved with a woman, if she complains about the little stuff, he assumes she is not appreciating the big stuff. He feels an even greater pressure to do bigger things, which causes him to ignore the little things even more.
- When a woman complains about the little stuff, it is really because for her the little stuff is just as important as the big stuff. Instead of resisting and misinterpreting this female tendency, men should focus more on doing little things.
- It is actually quite a relief for a man to understand that a woman can really love and appreciate him for the little things he does.
Hope you all create a life filled with love and success.
The type of relationships we have with people determines the level of attachment we have with them. If we hold on and develop a deep level of attachment, it will hinder us to let a relationship grow.
When we encounter changes in our lives, sometimes it comes as a painful reality. It would be hard to deal with the emotions involve with it. It would continue to be harsh until we haven't overcome it or come to terms with it. I realized, I should be always ready to fully accept it to experience lightness, joy and laughter. I have to go through the pain in order to heal.
In these times, I pause and think of these thoughts:
- I am responsible for myself. Although I have to go through this alone, I will not let myself be in a depressive mess.
-There are many new things that can come into my life.
- I can meet and accept new people in my life.
- Being displaced fom my comfort zone is always a welcoming change, a challenge.
For now, I have the conscious effort to think positively, as I seek to be loved rather that feared. I believe that I am worthy to love and be loved.
I know there's gonna be more challenges....
"Now and then it's good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy" - Guillaume Apollinaire
For a lucky birthday charm, I simply put on her microminds Doraemon necklace which I ordered from an interesting Multiply online store and effortlessly collected @ their Greenhills office (among other cute stuff!..).
